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HOw would you go about this?

June 30th, 2006 at 06:43 pm

I need to confront my cousin ref the phone bill...I mean, she knows, and she knows I'm mad...but, I want to tell her that I'm particularly upset about the way she has handled the whole thing...and, no, I'm not talking about her parenting (or lack thereof!)...I'm talking about HER... she told me the other day that she had gone and paid the internet/cable service so it would be reconnected (was disconnected for 1 day!) because "not because of D., but because of me, because cable is my only enterntainment and I don't feel it's fair to give even THAT up"...
well, I guess she hasn't figured that, so that SHE can have her enterntainment, MY DAUGHTER AND I are going to have to cut ours to be able to pay for her son's bill...at least, I'm hoping that this is because she's CLUELESS, because if she realizes this and still justifies reconnecting her cable, that means she's just as inconsiderate as her son...

I also want to tell her that I DO expect her to pay me, and, since this will have to come out of my cc payments (I'd have to make minimum payments only on the cc to be able to apply the rest towards this debt for 6-8 months), that I expect her to pay for the interest...at the same rate I have on the cc...

Also, I want to make it clear that, if she runs into any more financial trouble (and she will!), I am willing to offer moral support, but nothing more...

I'm really not confrontational, so I know this is going to be difficult...

On top of that, I haven't decided whether I should do this as part of a meeting that I want to have with her and her son (God, grant me the restraint to NOT kill him!) or as a separate meeting -- she really doesn't need anybody else making that child feel like SHE's not in control...but, then again, the situation between them is such, that...does it really matter? She has no control, he truly is Master in that house (yes, capital M)...

any ideas are welcome!

Posted in Money, Setbacks, goals, family | 3 Comments »

3 Responses to “HOw would you go about this?”

  1. miclason Says:
    June 30th, 2006 at 10:14 pm 1151705676
    1151705676

    OK, she called and touched the subject, so we did it the worst possible way, which was on the phone, but, it turned out alright...I'm still having the meeting with her, her son and Ale, though!

  2. dmontngrey Says:
    July 1st, 2006 at 12:16 pm 1151756191
    1151756191

    Good luck with this. I'm sorry I don't have any suggestions on what to do. Lesson learned and move forward from this. I thought I could lend my brother in law some money and we're approaching a year now. Not one penny. I wish you the best!!

  3. tener Says:
    November 18th, 2006 at 04:24 pm 1163867072
    1163867072

    its always difficult to confront family members.... i hope it turned out ok for you!

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